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  Minimizing Grief's Desolation
Part Four



Expressing Grief and Loss
When Impatience Sets in
The Power of Resilience
Bringing Rest to Troubled Souls
Too Many Choices
When the Grass Appears Greener
Wounds in the Household of Faith

Moving beyond the Reefs of Rejection
Handling Dark Times: Tunnel Experiences
The Dark Night of the Soul

  But as for me, my feet were nearly slipping.
Psalm 73:2
  How do people who have experienced rejection react? Most commonly by withdrawing into their shell. Suppressing their natural emotions, they hold back from reaching out to others in case they end up getting hurt again. Does this sound familiar?

Not all withdrawal is unwise; it is certainly important to know when to protect yourself against further rejection. I understand entirely why a certain veteran prayer leader reached the point where he became fed up with people queuing up to “practise” their healing ministry on his wife, who suffers from severe multiple sclerosis.

Eager though both he and his wife are to welcome people with genuine anointing, they find it immensely wearying going over the same ground with people they have no heart connection with. Some who offer their help may feel pushed away – but perhaps they had not paused to think matters through from the couple’s point of view.

C.S. Lewis posed a question which most of us ask ourselves at one time or another: “Does there have to be so much pain in loving?” Perhaps we would do well to look at this the other way round. Would refusing to love make things any better? Is this how God Himself works? What if He had weighed the odds halfway through Jesus’ mission, decided that the Romans were looking fierce and the Pharisees were not for turning and pulled His Son off the job?

You are reading these words today precisely because the Father went right through with His mercy mission. No matter how empty your heart may feel, and how much in need of a refit, God honours those who persevere.

If you have been holed beneath the waterline by sharp rocks on rejection’s reef, may the Lord direct you to people and places that will aid the healing process. You may find such repair work tedious and time-consuming, but, like a ship refitting in dry dock it is essential not to neglect the damage that has occurred. May He heal your hurts and rejections as you do this – including the fear of being rejected.

Reflect and Pray

Father, where scorn and rejection
have carved a furrow in my heart,
and throb as sharply as if blows and batons
were assailing my soul,
heal all traces of rejection in my heart,
and restore my trust in Your leading.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.


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Then Jesus entered a house, and again a crowd gathered, so that He and His disciples were not even able to eat. When his family heard about this, they went to take charge of Him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.” And the teachers of the law who came down from Jerusalem said, “He is possessed by Beelzebub! By the prince of demons He is driving out demons.”
Mark 3:20-22

In The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe, Lucy, the youngest but most spiritually sensitive of the Pevensey children, suffers intensely when her brothers and sister refuse to believe what she has to tell them about the land of Narnia. Much the same thing happens in Prince Caspian, when she alone senses Aslan warning her that they are heading in the wrong direction. There is a cost to pay for seeing as the Lord sees, and grief at discerning His calling when others either cannot or will not follow where He is leading.  Read More . . .

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